Friday, January 30, 2015

You're my favorite...

Ever have those days when you feel like you are not really getting this whole parenting thing?  It seems like they are coming more often then not these days.  There are days when I just sit on the bed and cry for apparently no reason other then sheer frustration.

I have a 4 year old who is still in diapers.  He won't sleep in his own bed... ever.  He is combative.  He doesn't listen... to the point where I will be standing right in front of him saying his name and it is like I'm not even there.  He throws things for no reason.  He is disruptive in school to the point where he has already been kicked out of 1 school.  I have never seen a child his age throw tantrums to the level that he does.  He screams and yells and argues.  He rarely does what you ask to do (or not do) without the need to repeat it 4 or 5 times.  The list goes on...

To add to that, we are in a financial bind due to the fact that I have been the only one consistently working for the past 15 months.  I have 3 cats who, for some reason, feel the need to do their business just outside the litter box instead of in it.  And don't get me started on the cat vomit!  My house is a mess.  I have unfinished projects all over the place.  It always seems like I cannot get ahead.

Yeah... definitely feel like I'm failing at this mommy, wife, and homemaker thing most of the time.

And then, tonight, while we are cuddling on the couch, Marshall says "You're my favorite mommy."

I say "Really?  Because I don't feel like a very good mommy right now."

His response:  "No, you're a good mommy."

And than I have to think of the other times.  The happy and fun times.  The times that all Marshall wants to do is give me a hug.  The time he helped me (sort of) shovel the driveway because daddy was away at reserve duty.  The time we built a snowman.  The time we went to the beach and he played in the ocean for the first time.  The time we took him to Cedar Point for the first time and the happy look on his face while he rode the rides.

It is true what they say... your kids won't remember that your house was a mess all the time.  Or that you didn't get your projects completed.  Or that you aren't gazillionaires.  They will remember the time you spend with them and all the happy and fun times that you have.

You may think you're failing at this parenting thing.  But, to your kids, you're most likely hitting it right out of the ballpark!


~AKO

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

What I'm Reading | 2015 Reading Challenge

One of my 2015 goals is to spend some time on me.  That goal is going to be several parts to create the goal over the course of the year.  The 1st step is to get back into reading.

When I was in high school and college, I used to read all the time.  My yearly Christmas lists were usually filled with books, which were usually all read by March.  I don't remember when I stopped reading books, but I want to start again.  Especially with all these books being made into movies every year.

Starting this year, I am participating in the GoodReads 2015 Reading Challenge.  I am going to try and read at least 50 books this year.  But, on top of that, I am also participating in a category book challenge.  You can see the list in the 2015 Reading Challenge that I have posted in the header above.  I'm hoping this will turn into a yearly challenge for me and I'll try to find a new list every year.

I just charged up my Kindle and plan to use my daily commutes into the city for something other than playing Candy Crush and surfing Facebook.  My commute is 1 hour and 45 minutes so I know I can get some good reading done every day.

When I get home from the gym around 9:45pm each night, the first thing I do is turn on the TV.  Not anymore!  I will have a date with some tea and my kindle.  Or maybe a glass of wine on some nights :)

So, what is first on my list?


I haven't seen the movie yet... who am I kidding... I didn't see a single new movie last year!

I'm looking forward to getting into this one since I've heard a lot of great reviews on this.  Stay tuned for my review!

What are you reading this year?

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~AKO

Sunday, January 11, 2015

Time, Time, and Even Less Time

This weekend has been a bust.  I sat around and did nothing yesterday.  I didn't even get into the shower until almost 3pm so now that leaves a whole bunch of crap to do today... take down the Christmas stuff, grocery shopping, laundry, other odds and ends like organizing/printing pictures and getting started on my Project Life for 2015, and some miles need to happen in there somewhere.

Lately I've been feeling like I can't get even the simplest things done.  Been actually thinking about going to talk to someone about it because all I want to do when I'm home is sleep.  That can't be good, right??

I am trying to get in my head that if I can get at least 1 or 2 things done in a day that I should be able to call it a good day.  But it just seems like every day I don't get a task done, then 5 more show up the next day.

January is not starting out so well, but there are still 20 days left to get some life organization started!

What are you doing to get your life organized for 2015??

~AKO


Friday, January 2, 2015

Resolve to...

Here we are again.  That time of the year where we all make those resolutions to lose weight, fix our finances, fall in love...  I stopped making resolutions a few years ago.  I like to call them goals.  I think it sounds better.

I had kind of a rough 2014.  To the point where I had strongly considered seeking professional help about it.  With only 1 income for the past14 months and nothing to fall back on along with some other crap that has been (and is still) going on, I can safely say I was not sorry to see 2014 go.  And to be honest, I wasn't all that excited to start a new year.  But here we are.  No matter what has happened over the past 12 months, time still moves forward.  We have to move forward.  We really don't have much of a choice.

So I have decided to embrace 2015 as our year to get our shit together.

Finances

People always say money can't buy happiness.  Well, if you can't pay your bills and you have collectors calling every hour between the hours of 8:00am and 8:00pm, I guarantee you aren't all that happy.  I don't care what you say, money is a key factor in being happy.  It pays for things like your home, food, clothes just to name a few necessities.  It also pays for vacations and fun stuff.  If you can't do any fun stuff then you probably aren't very happy.  That is where we're at.  Not very happy and pretty deep in debt.  So, we've already starting writing out a plan to get our finances in order.  I've set the goal that by the end of the year, the only debt we will have is our house payment.  We will be using Dave Ramsey's snowball method.  I actually did something very similar about 10 years ago, before I even knew who Dave Ramsey was and was able to pay off around $15,000 of college debt that I had racked up in about 2 years.

Health and Fitness

I'm not going to say I want to lose weight.  I plan to just get healthy this year.  I've already put a few things in motion to help support my efforts.  I joined the The Max Challenge on November 24 for a 4 week session.  They offer small class sessions along with a nutrition plan.  The success stories they advertise are right next to you in class every night.  Their next 10 week challenge officially starts on January 12, but I've been going 4 - 5 nights a week since November 24 and can already tell where I'm starting to tone.  Their nutrition plan is not rocket science.  It is basically a clean eating plan.

In addition, as of December 30, I've started training for my 1st half marathon which is on March 21.  I ran a couple 5Ks and a 10K last year but I really want to step it up this year.  I also joined a challenge to run/walk 2,015 miles in 2015 sponsored by Run the Edge.  I'm doubtful I will hit the 2,015 mile, but I'm going to give it a go!

If I happen to lose weight along the way, then great, but the main point is that I'll be healthy.

Me

This year I'm going to make an effort to do some things that make me happy.  What I've been doing every night and most weekends is sit on the couch and stare at the TV or my phone or something like that.  This year I'm going to work on some of my hobbies like my Project Life scrapbooking, reading, photography, organizing, and of course blogging!

So there you have it.  The 3 things that I want to focus on in 2015.  I plan on writing up some blog posts on some of these things in more detail over the next couple weeks so stay tuned!

What are you going to resolve to do in 2015?

~AKO

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Happy New Year!

I hope everyone has a safe, fun, and happy New Year's Eve celebration!

I had to work today and, of course, just as I was getting ready to leave around noon I get hit with an escalation!  It never fails.  I don't think I've ever really been able to take advantage of early release over the past few years.  When I finally left around 1:30pm, I realized I had actually forgotten my driver's license in the jacket I went running in last night...  OOPS!  On top of that, because I could give a Graduate level course in procrastination, it expired today so I had plans to go to the nearest DMV near my workplace and just get it done.  Well, since I had left my license at home, I had to drive all the way back home - 40 minutes - to get it.  Since my day was going awesome when I got home... yep... you guessed it... my license was in my wallet the whole time!

So now it is almost 2:45pm.  After quickly checking to make sure {thankfully!} the DMV was open until 5:30pm today, I ran out to try and get at least one thing accomplished today.  The DMV is only 15 minutes away so I can do this!

BTW... Marshall did not have school today and Freddy currently isn't working.  They were BOTH still in their pajamas when I got home!  At least the dishes were done!  LOL!

At the DMV, the receptionist asks me for my 6 points of ID to check in and get my number.  WHAT???  Being the first time that I've renewed my license in New Jersey, I thought you only had to do that when you got a new license.  Nope!  Every time!  Luckily I had my military ID in my wallet so the combination of that and my current license satisfied the 6 points of ID {whew!}


They were only on number 68.  While waiting, I heard the security guard say that if they don't get to your number by 5:30pm, then you have to come back another day.  That would NOT be cool.  So I sat.  Played a couple games of Soda Crush.  Played a couple games of Cookie Jam.  Checked Facebook.  Played some more Soda Crush.  Finally, after almost an hour, they called my number!  I found out that I received the last number to guarantee service before they closed up for the day.  And, apparently, everyone now gets a new picture when they renew licenses, so after I went to the first counter where all she did was check my IDs again, I had to wait in another line to get my picture taken.  Another 30 minutes later and I walked out the door with a brand new license in hand.  I vowed, like I do every time, not to wait to the last minute next time.  But pretty sure I will!

Now to start my New Year's Eve celebration!!  Or, as we like to call it, relaxing in the living room doing nothing!  Yep, we're pretty low key so for the past couple of years we have just stayed in and had our own little celebration to welcome in the New Year.

I'm working on some plans for 2015.  We had a pretty crappy 2014 and we have both vowed to make 2015 better and make it our year.  But more on that later.

For now, we wish you health and happiness in 2015!


~AKO